How to Get More Foreplay

Before you ask your guy to lavish attention on your various hot spots, you've gotta get your mood on.

After all, while a single thought — it's time for sex! — might be all he needs to get started, you (like many women) probably require some transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down.

Start with some small requests like these to turn up the emotional temperature and help you get psyched for making more sexy suggestions later.

* "Come give me a hug." A nice, long hug (20 to 30 seconds, to be exact) is proven to jack up a woman's level of oxytocin — a hormone that heightens sexual arousal. Since guys love to learn the technical specs for anything, including the workings of your body, share this little tidbit with your partner, suggests Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. Then, once he's got his arms wrapped around you, put your good feelings into words: "It's so nice to unwind with you" or "I love when you hold me." He'll be encouraged to discover what else he can accomplish with a little patience.

* "Can you rub my neck (or feet, or head)?" When a man wants to get you into bed, he'll often suggest that he give you a massage. Remind him of how well that tactic worked in the past.

* "Let's take a shower together." The warmth...the sweet scents...the sexy, slippery feel of it all: Suds and water have a way of moving things in the right direction. Plus, when you open with this suggestion, he'll likely be open to your other steamy ideas.

Will She Be Good in Bed?

It's an enigma as enduring as Mona Lisa's small, knowing smile: Sometimes meek women turn wild in bed; sometimes they just lie there, waiting to inherit the earth. Sometimes the chestnut filly with the riding crop turns out to be all packaging; sometimes she's as thrilling as the signs indicated she'd be.

It made me wonder: Is it possible to reliably predict what a woman is like in bed? The love scientists say yes—sort of.

"It's very hard to gauge," explains Helen Fisher, Ph.D., an anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love, a new book about the nature and chemistry of romantic love. A woman's high heels, short skirt, and follow-me walk mean little. "Those are signs of intention. But they are not signs that this person is actually good in bed and is compatible with you."

So, besides that old cliche about how she dances, what signs can a man go by? Start with these.

She Suggests Thai for Dinner

Beware the "I-don't-know, what-do-you-want-to-do?" camp of passive babes. A woman who knows and says what she wants, even when answering a mundane question, is more likely to be assertive in bed. Good lovers take responsibility for their pleasure. They remove a lot of the guesswork.

"Human tastes in bed are just as varied as tastes in food," Fisher says. "A person may like Japanese food but hate pizza. Some women want their nipples chewed on; others need you to be more delicate." Today's women aren't shy. "In the past, women didn't get to sleep with enough men to know what they liked," Fisher says. "But now, women are becoming more experienced and more demanding."

She Eats It Up

Take note of how she handles her food. "Watch how she uses her fork. Does she enjoy things? Is she sensuous? Is she poky and grabby?" says Candida Royalle, a producer of femme-friendly adult films and a veteran adult-film star. "If someone eats slowly, it's likely that they like to make love for a long time. I'm one of the slowest eaters I know."

She Screams for Ice Cream

You may find the perfect lover by comparing tastes in ice cream, says Alan Hirsch, M.D., a neurologist and director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago. Researchers call this "ice-cream hedonics." Dr. Hirsch conducted a study of 720 people, ages 24 to 59, in which he correlated personality tests, their favorite ice-cream flavors, their partners' favorite ice creams, and relationship status.

Coffee-ice-cream lovers—found to be dramatic, seductive, flirtatious—are most romantically compatible with strawberry fans. Vanilla gals (emotionally expressive and fond of PDA) melt best with rocky-road guys. And mint-chocolate-chip fans are meant for each other.

Anal Masturbation

This form of masturbation conjures up all sorts of misconceptions. Some assume that a person who enjoys anal play is perverted or immoral; others believe that partaking in it would somehow compromise their sexual orientation.

There are also those who keep the ‘back door’ closed because opening it might make them feel too vulnerable. It is easy to see that perception can have a major impact on a person’s experience with anal exploration.

Being open to anal play is an indication that a person feels comfortable with his or her body. It also suggests that they don’t let outside influences affect the expression of sexuality that feels natural to them.

With this spirit of openness, this article will focus on anatomy, sex toys, tips, and methods as they relate to anal masturbation. The information will apply to both men and women, apart from the section about prostate stimulation.

What is a Rabbit Vibrator?

The Rabbit Vibrator is one product that cannot be well understood from looking at a photograph.

I have put this very short video to demonstrate the motion of a rabbit vibrator.

Take a quick look and see how a rabbit vibrator works and we think you will better understand why they have become so popular.